"You have nothing in this world more precious than your children. When you grow old, when your hair turns white and your body grows weary, when you are prone to sit in a rocker and meditate on the things of your life, nothing will be so important as the question of how your children have turned out. It will not be the money you have made. It will not be the cars you have owned. It will not be the large house in which you live. The searing question that will cross your mind again and again will be, How well have my children done?"

~President Gordon B. Hinckley

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

UPDATES...

Lots of catch up to do...


So much has been going on and we've been so busy that it's been difficult finding the time to post as much as I'd like. Here's my BEST attempt to catch everyone up on the Becker's! Check back in a day or so for pictures!!


SETH: After not getting the job in WA, we were pretty bummed about our prospects and about advancing at UOP(university of Phoenix). We had faith that things would work out, but admittedly, not the faith we should have had. Lesson Learned. Two weeks ago, Seth was called into his boss' boss' office to "chat". He figured that another management position was opening up and they were considering him for an interview or something of the sort. The NEXT day, the managers were all having a meeting and asked Seth to join them, joked around a little, and then after Seth showed signs of confusion, told Seth that the current enrollment team he was on was splitting into two teams and if he wanted the position...HE WAS THE NEW MANAGER. What a blessing. It is the best possible scenario in that there was NO interview...NO new team to prove himself towards...and NO new managers to figure out. It truly is the best outcome and we feel so blessed and humbled that things worked out so well. It was a reminder to us that our Heavenly Father is always aware of us and our situations. While we still would LOVE to get out of AZ, we have ALWAYS felt it was necessary for Seth to have management experience to add to his resume to better his chances in the marketing/advertising career field. We have learned to put certain priorities first, such as family and our relationship with Heavenly Father and everything else will be taken care of. Seth is enjoying his new position and Nikki is getting used to the longer hours. We both know it is the best thing for us at this time in our lives!!:) At least we know where we'll be for the next year for sure and possibly longer.
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NIKKI: Can you teach an old dog new tricks? That is the question I've been asking myself. I think I have decided that I would like to pursue a nursing degree. The semester before starting my student teaching I told Seth that I didn't EVER want to teach...he made me finish my degree! I am grateful for that push(I am so happy to have a completed degree) however, I would like to have something I enjoy to fall back on if I need to. I've thought about my options for a LooooooooooooONG time and I truly think I would really love nursing. More specifically, I would love to be a labor and delivery or NICU nurse. However, both of those have the longest "intern" program. I have a friend who is a NICU nurse and has given me lots to think about. Right now we are trying to decide if it is in our families best interest for me to pursue this desire NOW or wait until our kids are older. Anybody have any experience in nursing?! I'm looking for any advice you've got!
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KEATON: The stitches are out!!! YEAH!! Stay tuned for pictures. He still has some obvious scarring, but we are hoping Mederma will clear that up! He doesn't seem to be AFRAID of dogs. He talks about when "the dog bite his owie"...when the dog bit his nose and gave him an owie!! However, he doesn't get scared when he sees dogs and really doesn't seem bothered by them at all, thank goodness. He's been a trooper and we are glad that saga is over!!:) He is such a fun little guy. He is talking more lately and truly is coming a LOoooooooNG way. I think we will try REALLY hard starting Monday to get the kid potty trained. It's time. Mom's ready, Dad's ready, and we're just hoping Keat's ready!!:) TIPS??!! I'm scared. I was scared about potty training when I found out we were pregnant!!! :) Really. NE one wanna do it for me?!
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LILEE: Well, we had a visit with the pediatric urologist on Tuesday. She indeed has kidney reflux. After talking about our options, we agreed that it would be best for Lilee to have a surgery called DEFLUX to correct the problem. It's an outpatient surgery and we have one of the BEST pediatric urologists working on her. Of course, ANY SURGERY is scary, and we are nervous...but as I mentioned, we feel it is best. She has to be closer to the age of one in order to have bladder surgery so she won't get it done until September. Until then she will be on antibiotics to keep her from getting more kidney infections/urinary tract infections. Apparently she has this reflux on BOTH sides which is pretty rare. Without the meds, the Dr. said she would definitely get sick again before the surgery, so we are doing our best to get her to choke down the meds each day. She is PRO at shaking her head at me when she sees it coming and is even better at spitting, gagging, or down right throwing it up within minutes. OH THE JOYS!! We'll survive. Aside from difficulty taking medicine...she is a DOLL!! She's this close to walking...but just hasn't figure it out yet. I think in another month or so maybe! Her and Keat are SO cute when they play now...they just laugh at each other all day...I love it!!
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SO, that's the latest and greatest! We're busy, but lovin' life and enjoying our family. We will most likely put our home up for sale sometime after summer is over. With the price of homes so low we might as well take advantage if we can sell our house. And, if we can't, no big deal! We do need to get into something bigger eventually, but we have the time. If you know anyone who wants to move...send them our way. :) We are also hoping to buy a minivan sometime soon...of course that means we are also hoping to get pregnant soon to add to that minivan. We'd love it if we were expecting by 2009. Life is krazy, why not add another baby to the mix?!! :) As I keep mentioning...keep an eye out for pictures. I need to get them posted soon...so check back!!

Thursday, July 17, 2008

5 AMAZING YEARS...

I got this idea from a friend when she celebrated her anniversary and I'm gonna steal it...


*5 YEARS

*HAD 3 BEeeeeeeeAUTIFUL KIDS

*GOT 1 ANNOYING DOG

*GOT RID OF 1 ANNOYING DOG

*COMPLETED 3 DEGREES (2 Bachelors and 1 Masters)

*BOUGHT 1st HOME

*4 PROMOTIONS (Not me...I'm still at my regular pay, but I wouldn't have it any other way)

*LOTS OF BLOOD SWEAT AND TEARS

*EVEN MORE LOVE


It was the HOTTEST day of the year so far...our FIRST stop after pictures was the Circle K by the Temple...in our suit and dress and all...the people working just laughed when we bought a GIANT thirst buster!

After looking at my list, I'm not sure it details all the amazing things that have happened these past 5 years...WOW, FIVE YEARS!! It doesn't seem that long...I can't remember a time when I didn't love Seth...it seems so natural! I sometimes believe I was BORN to be with that man! Totally sappy, but "he completes me"...more like he COMPLIMENTS me. He is my perfect partner in crime! We feed off of each other to get things done and I believe that is what a marriage is meant to be like. We are a very equal partner relationship and I'm grateful that Seth is that way. He helps me do SO much around the house and he is always doing so much more than I expect! He loves me...so unconditionally. He wants me to be everything that I can be and what's more is that he wants me to be what HE KNOWS I can be! He believes in me. We have had a wonderful 5 years...not an EASY 5 years by any means, but wonderful none the less. I don't think marriage should necessarily be EASY...especially the first 5 years. It's work. It takes patience, long suffering, adaptability, thick skin sometimes, and lots and lots of love! We haven't always excelled at all of those all the time, but one thing we have always kept in our hearts is LOVE! My love for Seth has NEVER dwindled...it has never wavered...and it has only grown to a capacity I was unaware existed 5 years ago! I am grateful to know that we will be together for ETERNITY! What a blessing to know that our love can continue on FOREVER! He's the only man I want to spend FOREVER with!! I love you, Sethee-Poo!! You are my rock, you are my light...and I cannot IMAGINE my life without you!


Our First Institute Dance
Dating...

Right after Seth proposed...Eater Sunday
Engagement Photos...

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

We Busted Out!!

That's right...WE ARE HOME!!! I have never in my life been more excited to be back at home, in my own bed, in my own shower, with my own food, my own privacy, just my own family!! It has been such a trying time for us and we are so grateful for all of our friends and family who have kept us in their prayers each day! This experience has taught me so much about myself and I've learned a great deal about what to hold near and dear. I think I take for granted the fact that myself and my children are "healthy". I think I don't realize what a stressful experience it is for parents to watch their kids suffer day after day after day! It's the worst pain I've ever felt...mainly because it's not my own...I can't control what they feel and I can't stop it from happening. In high school I remember answering the following question..."WHAT IS ONE OF THE WORST FEELINGS?" Back then I answered "helplessness." I believe that I have faced my fears this past week and I am no closer to conquering them than I was when I was 16. So many times I just wanted to yell at the Dr's and make them stop or get them to "fix" my baby or I was angry that Heavenly Father wouldn't just let Keaton get better. It didn't take long, however, to look around the other hospital rooms and realize who had been there a week, two weeks, a month...I just cannot imagine! I began to feel lucky. Lucky that there were Dr's who were there and knowledgeable to "fix" my baby in time. Lucky that I had family and friends who were there to help us sort through the madness of the week and there to lift our spirits. I especially felt LUCKY that Heavenly Father cared enough to send me a precious child to bring me joy. I realized at the PUREST degree that Keaton, as are all of my kids, TRULY ARE Heavenly Father's children. He has BLESSED me with their presence and I feel grateful for whatever that blessing brings...even if it is worrying and praying that they are okay. I cannot explain the peace that came with that realization. Even though I am SURE, 100% POSITIVE, ABSOLUTELY WITHOUT A DOUBT KNOW that motherhood will bring me MANY more days of worry and many more days of suffering on my child's behalf, I also know, with complete ASSUREDNESS, that it will be worth it. In the end, watching my child grow and be happy will bring me the greatest joy I could ever know. It already has!
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Okay, enough rambling. Here are some pics. First, the bad, then the good!!
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Here is Keaton BEFORE the incident:


Here is Keaton the morning AFTER:


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Here he is at the hospital on Saturday afternoon:
His face was just morphed so bad from the swelling...he didn't look like the same kid!
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And here he is TODAY: Cheetos and all!!

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BEFORE everything happened, we actually had a REALLY great time up in Mayer with my parents!! It was a great relaxing trip!
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Grandma and Lilee

Every night my dad would read Keaton a "bedtime story"...they are reading HEMMINGS magazine...it is of classic cars for sale. Keat LOVED it...look how enthralled they BOTH are!
Our PRETTY LITTLE PRINCESS on the deck outside...it was beautiful!

My cute munchkins!!

Look at those devil eyebrows!!

I just loved this picture...he's in deep thought...so peaceful!

TIRED little lady after a day at the pool!

BUT...not tired enough to keep from TACKLING daddy...

Although...I think he has the UPPER hand on this one!!
FUN times in the grass!!

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We had a great time at grandma and grandpa's house!! We played in the sprinklers, went to the swimming pool, watched movies, met some new friends, ate some great food, and had a lot of fun just being together!! We love this 4th of July tradition we've started(3rd year in a row now)...hopefully next year won't end with such a BITE...errr...bang!!

Sunday, July 6, 2008

No Fireworks Needed

Things sure went out with a bang for the 4th!! It's been a whirlwind since Friday. Long story short...Keat was bitten by a dog Friday evening, he had three lacerations that required seven stitches in his face. A shot of antibiotics later and we thought the worst was over (believe me...it was the WORST...it was just aweful seeing those stitches in my baby) and then he woke up on Saturday and had some swelling. By noon, his swelling had spread from his wounds to his cheek and his right side of his face was red and puffy. He didn't look anything like himself...he was totally disfigured...it was so sad. We took him to the ER and they admitted him. They started an IV (again, it was just aweful) and he took a ride in an ambulance to Thunderbird Hospital (they have a pediatric ward here) and we've been here ever since. We are waiting to talk to the Dr. and see how many more nights we'll have to stay...but HOPING to go home today sometime!! Say prayers that my sweet boy will get better quickly that his infection will heal and his wounds won't cause him pain or discomfort!! We have our cell phones if anyone needs to contact us!! I'll update soon!!

UPDATE on Lilee: Her tests came back and she indeed has a UTI...she is on antibiotics until we can get her in for testing and ultrasounds. One step at a time I guess!! Continued prayers for her would be great as well!! Thanx!

Thursday, June 26, 2008

The MANY faces...






Here is a sampling of the MANY faces of Keaton and Lilee

The CALM before the STORM

That's what I think Lilee's unexpected sleep improvement was...
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There is SO much to say and I FINALLY uploaded my pictures so there's SO many pictures to share. I'll start with the drama and then move onto the fun stuff!!!
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SO...I think that Lilee sleeping through the night was a fluke...here's why!! On Tuesday, after sleeping from 9-9...Lilee went to bed about 11am for a nap. SHE DIDN'T WAKE UP UNTIL AFTER 3!! She slept for close to 5 hours and when she did finally wake...the poor thing had a temperature of 103.5*...yowza!! We called the dr. who MIRACULOUSLY got us in right away. After no signs as to what was causing the temp, the dr. decided to check for a Urinary Tract Infection(UTI). They stuck a catheter in my sweet girl and it DIDN'T WORK!! Sooo, they stuck a bag to her and sent her home for me to "collect" a sample and bring in the next morning. Honestly, at this point I felt AWFUL for subjecting her to that torture because I was sure she had a virus and this all seemed SO unnecessary. I KNOW the pain that comes from catheters and I just felt horrible. Well, we managed to get my sample and took it to the dr. yesterday morning. They took it back, did a test, came out and said, "it's POSITIVE"! My poor child!! SO, that was that. She had been spiking a fever all day, so I was giving her alternating doses of Tylenol and Motrin to keep it down. After a busy day we got home about 8 pm and she was SCREAMING and looked awful and was just on fire! We gave her the prescribed antibiotics, gave her some Motrin for the fever, and took it to see where we were at...105.3*...I didn't even know that was possible. I was SO worried. Dan came over and he and Seth gave her a blessing that she would be okay and her fever would go down. After that, we headed to Urgent Care and were there within the hour. Her fever had gone down CONSIDERABLY by the time we got there...the Priesthood is a WONDERFUL blessing and I am so grateful for a husband worthy to perform such wonderful blessings for his family!! They pricked her heel to test how many white blood cells she had. Normal is 10,000, she had 23,000....not good. They were worried that the infection may have gotten into her bloodstream, so they needed more blood to send for a culture. That was the worst thing I have ever experienced. My POOR child was screaming as some half-witted cannibalist (I'm exaggerating) stabbed her repeatedly for upwards of 4 minutes straight. It was truly heartbreaking and at some point I just told him to stop and almost threw up I felt so bad for her. They get their blood. THEN...they have to come in and give her a shot of the antibiotics to "jump start" the oral ones and get them going. I comment to the nurse that it can't be worse than the blood draw and she had the AUDACITY to say, "OH...this is MUCH worse...yeah, this one burns as it goes it...it's quite painful"!! HELLO?! Did I REALLY need to hear that?! She gets her shot and at this point is just exhausted, along with a very sad mommy and daddy. So, although we have been sleeping more...we are more tired...how did that happen?! Long story, LONG...we won't know anything for sure until Monday when all the cultures come back. I could go into best case, worse case...but we'll just wait until we know something more and I'll just share that!! This has been WAY too long winded as it is!!
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ONTO the fun stuff...We've been busy this month. I'll post pictures with captions, rather than explain everything!!
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We spent a weekend up north is Mayer with my parents at the beginning of the month. Their neighbor had this horse that seemed so friendly. We had no problems until the owner came out and informed us that he bites...that's all we had to hear to get Lilee's little sausage fingers outta there!


More from Mayer


Lilee had her first taste of spaghetti while there also.
Here she isn't so sure of it...

Not bad...

The end result

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Keaton took two weeks of private swim lessons with a friend in our ward at church. She was great with him. He did so well and has actually even gotten better since they ended!! We're so proud of him...here are the ONLY pictures that us LAME-O parents managed to take!!



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PLENTY of yard work to be done now that the grass is growing green again. Good thing we have Keat to help daddy out...although, I'm sure Seth wishes he could mow the lawn in HIS diaper...er...underwear also!!:)
That's us...be sure to check back next week to hear about our latest adventure!!:)

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

9-9

Yup, that's right...Lilee slept from 9pm-9am this morning. Actually it was more like 9:30-9:00 but who's counting!? WOW...we were beginning to stress out about her sleeping. I can't complain too much though because even though she'd wake 2-3 times a night, she still just wanted you to give her a bottle in her crib and she'd go back to sleep, but NO BOTTLE, and NO WAKINGS is a beeeeeautiful thing! It's happened about 2 nights now so about 2 more and we're hoping for a trend that will stay. Of course it is JUST in time for sleep schedules to get all messed up over the 4th...what can you do?! A mother's life is all about flexibility!!
ALSO...we have a tooth. It's just poking through at the corner, but it's there so we are officially saying Lilee has a tooth!! WHOoo HOoo!! Now, maybe she'll eat more solids!! I'll post with pictures and her 9 month stats after her appt. Can you BELIEVE she is 9 months old?! Where'd my baby go?!